{"id":118071,"date":"2024-01-13T23:34:48","date_gmt":"2024-01-13T23:34:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/leviolonrouge.com\/?p=118071"},"modified":"2024-01-13T23:34:48","modified_gmt":"2024-01-13T23:34:48","slug":"ask-amy-grandmother-prefers-the-floor-to-an-airbnb","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/leviolonrouge.com\/world-news\/ask-amy-grandmother-prefers-the-floor-to-an-airbnb\/","title":{"rendered":"Ask Amy: Grandmother prefers the floor to an Airbnb"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dear Amy:<\/strong> I became a grandmother this year.<\/p>\n

I am a boomer widow and I live alone on a limited income.<\/p>\n

My son, daughter-in-law and grandson moved to another state, about an eight-hour drive from where I live.<\/p>\n

I do not feel comfortable making the drive by myself, but I can fly.<\/p>\n

Even though he lives in a three-bedroom home, my son wants me to stay in an Airbnb when I visit.<\/p>\n

So in order to visit them, according to his demands, I need to pay for the long-distance parking at the airport, the airfare, the Airbnb, and rent a car to get back and forth from the Airbnb to their house.<\/p>\n

This is about $1,000 to visit for a couple of days.<\/p>\n

I have done this twice.<\/p>\n

He tells me, \u201cDon’t give us gifts, save up for the trip.\u201d<\/p>\n

But it’s not just the cost; I don’t like staying by myself at an Airbnb.<\/p>\n

I told him that if he wants me to visit them (the baby is adorable and will be a year old soon) he should, please, pick me up from the airport and let me have a spot on their floor.<\/p>\n

I’ll make it work. I’m not a princess; I am very easy.<\/p>\n

We are at an impasse. I have decided that I’m just not going to visit until I am welcome to stay with them, which is the whole purpose of the trip. I don\u2019t want to sit around from sunset to mid-morning in some isolated room.<\/p>\n

What do you think?<\/p>\n

— Boomer<\/em><\/p>\n

Dear Boomer:<\/strong> This is a very sad situation.<\/p>\n

As absolutely reasonable as your query is, it is hard to imagine anyone (including you) being comfortable if you basically forced your presence upon this family. (And with a three-bedroom home, would sleeping on the floor even be necessary?)<\/p>\n

However, families with new babies (especially first children) sometimes feel stressed to the breaking point. You don\u2019t mention your daughter-in-law, but she may be struggling with postpartum issues that make the prospect of in-house overnight visits overwhelming.<\/p>\n

Your son\u2019s selfishness here must be very disappointing.<\/p>\n

All the same, he has created a firm boundary, and if you want to see this little family, you seem to have no choice but to work within it.<\/p>\n

If you could afford a visit longer than just a couple of days, you might be able to get to know their area better — finding diverting things to do when you\u2019re not with the family. Also, staying in a guest-suite type of hotel with a coffee shop in the lobby might be less expensive \u2014 and decidedly less lonely \u2014 than an Airbnb.<\/p>\n

Or you could remain staunchly on your side of this impasse, and decline to visit at all.<\/p>\n

Dear Amy:<\/strong> Our cousin \u201cMaria\u201d is getting married in a couple of months. As a family, we\u2019ve always shared all of our life-events, along with our mom, who died just over a week ago at over 100 years of age.<\/p>\n

We really like her and her fianc\u00e9.<\/p>\n

Maria is having a bridal shower in two weeks and a sendoff next month for her destination wedding.<\/p>\n

Maria is aware of Mom\u2019s passing (she had also been invited to these parties) and hasn\u2019t called, did not attend the funeral, and did not express her condolences.<\/p>\n

Although we are all hurt and disappointed, we don\u2019t want to sever relations with Maria.<\/p>\n

We also are not comfortable attending her pre-wedding celebrations.<\/p>\n

We considered not going to these parties, or maybe attending and first sending a polite note expressing our disappointment.<\/p>\n

We will give a gift and are considering adding Mom\u2019s name to our gift.<\/p>\n

Your thoughts?<\/p>\n

— Upset Cousin<\/em><\/p>\n

Dear Upset:<\/strong> You should call your cousin. Ask her how her wedding planning is going and tell her you are excited for her. She may take the opportunity to bring up your mother\u2019s death and express her condolences.<\/p>\n

If she doesn\u2019t, you should tell her, \u201cAs a family, we share our celebrations and sorrows. We were disappointed not to hear from you after mom died. She lived a good and long life, and you were an important part of that.\u201d<\/p>\n

Dear Amy:<\/strong> \u201cClueless in Carolina\u201d was hesitant to take on babysitting for her grandchild because her daughter is very controlling.<\/p>\n

Thank you for suggesting that if she wants to do this, she should do so in her own home.<\/p>\n

My daughter installed cameras throughout her home without telling me — and then remarked on my choices.<\/p>\n

— Wised-Up<\/em><\/p>\n

Dear Wised-Up:<\/strong> Yikes. Creepy.<\/p>\n

(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)<\/em><\/p>\n

Subscribe to our weekly newsletter, In The Know, to get entertainment news sent straight to your inbox.<\/em><\/p>\n

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